Showing posts with label cancer. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cancer. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

What does a sick person look like?

I remember one day during my first bout of cancer my boss came up to me and asked me if I was okay. That I looked sick. I bawled. I thought I was doing so well hiding being sick and exhausted. That if people didnt know I had cancer they wouldn't know I was sick. I never stopped it from keeping me from work. I never let it stop me from living. 
I made sure from then on to try to not look sick. smile and not let people know how bad things were bothering me... I got pretty good at it.
Cancer sucks. getting up everyday and going for radiation and hoping to god that this time works sucks. Ive been dealing with this for almost 5 years now.
But then add all this thyroid mess and depression to it and it is just overwhelming.
In person I thought I was still doing well hiding it to the public. and at home I am a mess. I cry all the time. Im exhausted and hurt all the time. Not working sucks I feel like what made me important and gave my life meaning since my kids are grown got taken away.

The other day someone said something to my husband something about me looking not sick and asking questions about it. This person is close to me . So when I heard it it was kinda like a kick in the face. I thought about it all night. I am trying hard to be strong through all of this. And I thought that I was putting up a good front. At home when Im alone I can have my breakdowns where no one can see. and in person I can smile and act like everything is okay. But I guess the question is what did they want me to look like? like a crying pitiful thing? Something to be pitied. 
Maybe I am making a bigger deal of this than it is, and I probably am.
But I cant help feeling a little hurt.
My poor husband has had to take the brunt of all of this. He can tell when im hurting or somethings wrong. and he listens to me whine and cry and tells me im beautiful and things will get better. and the whole time he has become the sole provider for us, working long hours and then coming home to deal with me must feel like a full time job and sometimes I feel so guilty .
The other day I was trying to do the laundry and my back started aching so bad that I had to lay down for awhile and I started bawling. Im not working and im not even being a housewife. 
I havent written here for a long time . I've been dealing with all this , and not wanting to whine about my life, and Ive had some good times too. Hubby tries so hard to make me happy. Even taking me all the way to Fayetteville just to get the "special donuts of the day" But I also think sometimes a person just needs to vent and it is just easier to vent through here. People may read it and they may not but I can get it out.

Well Im off to finish the laundry and try to act like a human today.


~hope , guides me. It's what gets me through the day & especially the night.




Thursday, July 6, 2017

I miss the old me

                    Today is my 2nd last day of radiation. I have one more day... until the tests then hopefully they will come back good. Im so tired of all this. It's tiring. I just want to feel normal again.
                   Last weekend my husband told me he was taking me to see wonder woman, didn't really give me a choice. I was so excited when I first learned of the movie but it came out & I just didn't really care to go see it.W went & it was a lovely night. We got snacks and watched the movie and the mummy... I liked the movie , I liked the company, but there was not that excitement that I usually feel... and I felt guilty about that.
He asked me what I wanted to do on Sunday, & I told him nothing I just wanted to sit there on the couch.. & I was perfectly fine just doing that.
                Monday he took me to the Tulsa Zoo. I love the zoo. I love the animals. I could sit & watch the monkeys for hours. & they have just opened a new part they have made.. the lost kingdom. I had to sit down after every exhibit. I used to never do that. Even when I was taking chemo I could walk around and never have to rest. Hell I could keep walking when everyone else was tired. And it made me feel horrible.
             On 4th of july my mom asked if we wanted to go over and have burger with her and my brother. We were gonna go watch the fireworks after in Siloam. I love watching fireworks they like christmas lights seem magical to me. My mom made burgers,  corn on the cob, potato salad, & beans. My hubby stopped and got hurts donuts for everyone. It was nice sitting and talking with them. But when the time came to go watch the fireworks I just didnt feel like going. It didnt bother me at all that we didnt go see them. We did however light a sparkler and take a picture. So that counts right?
              I won't lie though having 4 days off from having to drag myself out of bed every morning and go to radiation, then come home and sleep, was nice. Today I decided to do some laundry. We havent had a dryer for almost 2 months now. So we've been going to the laundry mat. My hero husband last night got us a dryer from his brother. Of course the first set we did our washer machine decided it was going to break so it wouldn't drain. We finally got that fixed.
              I got home and went back to bed til noon. So today I thought I would do my laundry & try to be productive . I got my husbands out and started a load. By the time I was done my back was screaming, from just that little bit of standing. So I just stood there bawling. I sat down on the couch and was using my phone to check out facebook and you could visibly see my hands shaking... So of course then I sat there bawling again. I don't know what is wrong today. Today is just a worse day than usual. Usually I feel like I'm drowning but I can usually just feel numb. Today  I just can't seem to stop crying. I don't know why. I don't know why Today just sucks. I have tried everything my therapist has said... positive thinking, making myself do things I don't want to do, breathing. taking all the pills they tell me to take. I just want to feel normal. I want to go back to my job, that I really like, and be able to talk to my friends and not feel guilty. I feel so guilty about everything and I know that I cannot control the situation and I'm doing everything to try to fix it that I can, but I just can't help it. I go see my therapist and cry. But I feel like I can with her. I don't feel guilty for not being so strong, and just being able to shake this off & suck it up, and go on like before.
           So I think I'm gonna take a clonopin & lay on the couch and binge watch reign... & hopefully try to finish my laundry. & hopefully tomorrow will be better.

Cancer sux ya'all!

Wednesday, June 21, 2017

Radiation with a side of Anti depressants

I know it's been awhile. I have been MIA for awhile. Well I was here , I was just keeping to myself for awhile. Alot has happened since I talked to you guys and shared on here.
* My baby girl came to visit . It was a good visit but I felt bad cause I slept alot and ended up dragging her to the doctors with me... but more about that later.
* I just did my  3rd day of week 2 of radiation.

Im pretty sure I've said this before but with my brain fog I forget sometimes. When you have cancer there is usually an end game.. a goal you want to get to. When we last talked I had made a deal with my doctors to take the megestrol and hormone therapy and wait to do radiation until my daughter left.
I'm really not sure which is worse chemo or the megestrol.
 I know I mentioned before that my thyroid was a really high number.The doctor put me on medication. Before that medication I could function.. however things just got worse...
*tired all the time
* but couldn't sleep at night/ brain was racing and thinking
*constant headache
*my lower back in my hips would ache if I stood for too long
* cramps in my arms and legs
*my hand and feet on the right side would be freezing while I was warm everywhere else
* arms legs hands going numb for no reason
* forgetting things, things like knowing a word but not being able to say it
*crying all the time
*constipation/ diarrhea
*bad menstrual  cramps
*nasueas
*blood pressure going high, then low
*dizziness
*blurry vision
*shakey inside
*shortness of breath
*feeling my heart pound through my body
*gained weight
*dehydrated
*Depression

I wanted so bad for my daughter to have a good visit and not have to worry about me being sick. After lots of trying to get another appt with my doctor I was able to see her while my daughter was here. She did more blood tests and told me I had hashimoto's disease(for those of you like me that have no clue what that was I will spare you having to look it up like I did-
Hashimoto's disease is a condition in which your immune system attacks your thyroid, a small gland at the base of your neck below your Adam's apple. ... Inflammation from Hashimoto's disease, also known as chronic lymphocytic thyroiditis, often leads to an underactive thyroid gland)
And she also prescribed me anti- depressants. She told me I was not the same person that came in the first time. 
Anti depressants. I had a hard time coming to terms with that. I have went through 5 rounds of uterine cancer and have not had to take anything. Sure I had some bad days here and there, but nothing like this. I mean I knew something was wrong with me. I didn't want to do anything except lay on the couch and watch tv. I didn't want to go anywhere, talk to anyone, didn't even want to take a bath. I think I also felt like it made me weak. Im supposed to be strong. Hopelessness, like there will never be an end to all this. And guilt I have so much guilt. I sent a friend a message and asked her what she thought, because there is such a astigmatism to people being depressed and taking meds for it. She asked me if I thought it would help... I told her I didn't know but I needed to do something cause this wasn't me.

So I got the antidepressants. We took my daughter up to Branson to do some things while she was here. I ended up taking a nap between doing things. I had to stop and rest alot... and I felt horrible, and guilty, and not myself. I wanted so bad for her to have a good visit and for her not to have to deal with the mess that is me... that was the plan. And I am ashamed to say I ended up having  couple crying meltdowns in front of her.. a mom is supposed to take care of her kids not the other way around.
I got a call from my doctors and they said they wanted me to see the therapist ASAP. So we made another trip up to the doctors this time to see the therapist . She told me I was severely depressed and having anxiety. She said she wasn't sure if it was from the meds, the radiation, life, or what. She gave me some tips about breathing and positive thinking... I'm trying but it doesn't help. She also sent my doctor a message to discuss what she learned and to see me again.
By this time I had been taking the anti depressants for 2 weeks with no change and I had admitted defeat and put in for a leave of absence. The doctor told me that my body must be very sensitive to the thyroid meds she had me on and so she prescribed me a different one. She also said that by now we should have seen some change with the anti depressants. So she prescribed me a different one of those and a anxiety pill to take if needed.

I have been taking these new one for about a week and a half now. Im not sure if they are helping yet or not. Im seeing the therapist every week , which helps because I feel like I can cry to her and not feel guilty, like she is an unbiased person I can tell all my troubles to who doesnt judge me or feel like they have to fix it. I've been making a list of things I did today.. and to anyone who looks , it would look like I was lazy or stupid but to me they are little victories that I can see. Im supposed to be trying to make myself do things I don't want to do. She suggested coloring... I've done that a little but I get blurry vision and dizzy and I end up stopping.

Radiation sucks. But to be honest. I feel like crapt most of the time right now so I have no clue whats from the radiation and whats from all this other stuff . Today I had to stop by the side of the road to throw up. It got in my hair so at least I took a shower today .So yep thats about it. Im working on things. minute by minute ...

Cancer Sux Ya'All!



Tuesday, May 9, 2017

The fight continues... & I will fight

So on friday as I was pulling into work, I got the call from my doctors that my tests results were in.
The secretary wanted to see me then and I told her I had to work, so she told me I needed to come in on Monday. I stupidly asked " is it good news or bad news?" Her reply...

Oh honey, she wants you to come in...
I knew ...my heart sank. I had a couple melt downs at work, that im a little ashamed to say. I ended up going home at 8:30 cause my blood pressure was 95. Hubby drove me home. 
Saturday hubby & I drove over to Terra Studious. I used to take my kids there alot. It is a completely free place to go wander around and look at all the cool pottery & blown glass  art. By the pond they had some swinging chairs under shaded flowering ...ok I cannot think of the word. ( thats one more side affect for this damn thing. I know what I want to say I can see it in my head but I cant think of the word to say) anyways it was over the swings. So we sat there in the shade swinging watching the pond & listening to the fountain. It was so peaceful. We did it again and I almost fell asleep leaning on hubbys shoulder. It was a very nice day. Hubby let me stop & take all the pictures I wanted. Then we stopped & got a whattaburger. 
The next morning I slept til noon. I was soo sore and stiff. & I  guess I paid the price for going to Terra's... But wanna know a secret? It was totally worth it!

So Monday came & I went to the doctors.
My cancer is not gone.It has shrunk. It was 24.83 cm and is now a lil over 13cm.
So 9.843 inches about to 5.118 inches. I had to look it up. 
My daughter is coming to visit at the end of this month & I havent seen her in about 3 summers... And I am beyond excited to see her. The doctor wanted me to start on radiation again. But I don't want to be doing that when she is here. So we agreed to put me back on the megestrol & hormone therapy & when she goes back home I am going to start another round of radiation.but the thing is I didn't cry this time not in her office. I was just numb...
I went & had a visit with my mom & let her know what was going on. I drove home numb. I talked to hubby about it and was numb... but at some point I started talking to him I started crying then hysterically laughing. This is just not fair..
Today I woke to my alarm at 7 and took my meds and proceeded to getting sick all morning. I sat here laughing crying. One of the things we talked about at the doctors is getting on anxiety pills. she told me that cancer patients especially the ones that the cancer keeps coming back go through something similair to ptsd. so I looked it up today. Becuase I know Im depressed. I try so hard to hide it. & it's not becuase Im alone or have no support. I guess maybe becuase I feel like I have absolutely no control of my life and this seems to just never end. I am so numb, and angry, and sad, and tired and happy and confused... all rolled up in one nice package


Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder. A person may develop PTSD after experiencing an extremely frightening or life-threatening situation. PTSD is most often associated with traumatic events such as war, sexual and physical attacks, natural disasters, and serious accidents. But it can also affect people with a history of cancer. For example, a recent study found that nearly 1 in 4 women who were newly diagnosed with breast cancer experienced PTSD.
Some aspects of the cancer experience that might trigger PTSD include:
  • Being diagnosed with the disease
  • Diagnosis of an advanced cancer
  • Painful tests and treatments
  • Pain from the cancer itself or other physical issues
  • Test results
  • Long hospital stays or treatments
  • A cancer recurrence or the potential for recurrence

Signs and symptoms of PTSD

It is normal for a person with cancer or a cancer survivor to have feelings of anxiety, such as worry, fear, and dread. However, if these feelings do not go away over time, continue to get worse, or affect daily life, they could be a sign of PTSD.
Other symptoms of PTSD include:
  • Nightmares and flashbacks
  • Avoiding places, events, people, or things that bring back bad memories
  • Strong feelings of guilt, hopelessness, or shame
  • Trouble sleeping or concentrating
  • Continuous feelings of fear or anger
  • Loss of interest in activities and relationships that used to be enjoyable
  • Self-destructive behavior, such as drug or alcohol abuse
  • Frightening or unwanted thoughts
  • Difficulty feeling emotions
PTSD symptoms are different for each person and can come and go. The symptoms usually develop within 3 months of a traumatic even. But they can also occur several months or even years later. If you experience any of these symptoms and they last more than 1 month, talk with your doctor or a member of your health care team.
People with cancer and cancer survivors who have PTSD need have treatment because the disorder can keep them from getting needed tests, cancer treatments, or follow-up care. PTSD can also increase a person’s risk of developing other mental, physical, and social problems. These can include depression, alcohol and drug abuse, eating disorders, and loss of relationships and employment.

Risk factors for PTSD

It is not clear why some people develop PTSD while others do not. Certain factors may make a person more likely to develop the disorder, including a younger age at diagnosis. One study found that survivors of childhood cancer—especially those who had longer and more intensive treatment plans—had an increased risk of developing PTSD. Another found that nearly 20% of infants and preschoolers with cancer experience PTSD.
PTSD also seems to be more common for:
  • People who have had PTSD or other mental health conditions before being diagnosed with cancer
  • Women from minority groups
  • People with high levels of overall stress
  • People who use avoidance strategies to cope with stress, such as drugs or alcohol
  • People with less formal education
  • People with low or no income
  • Single people
However, a person with cancer or a survivor is less likely to develop PTSD if they:
  • Receive strong support from family and friends
  • Are given correct information about the stage of the cancer
  • Have good relationships with members of the health care team

PTSD and caregivers

PTSD can also affect caregivers. Learning that a loved one has cancer, seeing a loved one in pain, and experiencing a medical emergency are traumatic events. And they may contribute to the development of PTSD symptoms during treatment or years after the person has survived the cancer. One study found that nearly 20% of families with teenaged survivors of childhood cancer had a parent who was experiencing PTSD. Research also shows that it is extremely common for parents of children receiving cancer treatment to develop stress-related symptoms.

Treatment of PTSD

PTSD is treatable. Which treatment works best depends on a person’s specific symptoms and situation. Common treatments are listed here and are often combined.
  • Psychotherapy. This means talking with a mental health professional, like a counselor, who has experience treating PTSD. Some counselors specialize in helping people who have or have had cancer. Therapy can be done 1-on-1 or in a group setting. Some health insurance companies pay for a portion of the treatment. Read more about the benefits of counseling.
  • Medications. Antidepressants and anti-anxiety drugs can help manage PTSD symptoms, such as sadness, anxiety, and anger. Medication is often used in combination with psychotherapy.
  • Support groups. Support groups can help people cope with the emotional aspects of cancer. They provide a safe place to share experiences and learn from other people facing similar situations. Research shows that support groups can help people with cancer feel less depressed and anxious and become more hopeful. Learn more about support groups.

Cancer Sux Ya'All! 

~ Hope is what guides us. It's what gets us through the day & especially through the night.

Friday, May 5, 2017

2 weeks later... still waiting

2 weeks ago I had my last of 4 weeks of radiation. I keep thinking it's gonna get better & easier but I still feel like pooh  crapt.. yep I feel like crapt!
 I am beyond exhausted. My head continually hurts. . My body aches. My back feels like someone has punched me between the shoulder blades and in the lower back. I still can't get rid of the diarhea.. yeah thats fun and oh so not embarrassing. My redness & itchy skin luckily was mild and has gone away. But not the crampy feeling in my uterus. I will literally be sweating and my hands and feet will be freezing. My blood pressure likes to go from 155 to 90. I can't remember things sometimes & most of the time I think to much and can't get my head to shut up. And sleeping...ugh. I think depression is the  worst. no matter what I try to do to get over it, I just can't.

... & I am still waiting for my results to come back so I can see if this is over or what comes next.
I did make myself go to work the last 2 days because I just am feeling so useless and lazy. but dang if I don't get home and just wanna die. I am stubborn and I will continue to fight no matter what but let me just tell ya there are days, that my mood is definitely...
There are days that it is really hard to get myself up dressed and functional. My hubby tells me all the time my body is still trying to recuperate and I know that, in my head but for some reason it just makes me feel... so not human. not functional, not responsible, not in control... NOT STRONG.
I have this constant struggle where I want to go and enjoy all the things I can while I can  & wanting to lay in pjs on the couch and do absolutely nothing, then feel guilty about it.
And that dreaded question... How are you? how are you feeling.. it makes me want to pull my hair out... and thats horrible. i know people ask becuase it's nice and they are only care, or don't know what else to say but I hate answering it.. do they want the truth or a sugar coated lie? Today my husband asked me this very question and for some reason I got upset and made a maddish reply. I know he only worries about me, and I have to fight him to go to work cause he thinks I push to hard. But I guess I want so badly to be "okay" and to be able to be strong & handle things.

They have a word for this horrible time when you are in between and not knowing... SCANXIETY
I recently read a very cool article about scanxiety and she had some tips...
 Reading that and several outher blogs from real people and not medical technical stuff helps, lets me know i am not crazy or that there are outher people going through this same stuff, feeling the same way... and maybe someone else will read this and see that they arent the only one too.
Well it is time for me to pull on some clothes.. cause yes I am still in my jammies. I took some aleve to get through the day... and Im going to go try to adult. I missed so much work I literally got a whopping 22.90 on my check that doesnt even pay for gas to work for a week.. so adulting it is! That is one more thing that you have to deal with while going through this is financial.. cause OUCH!




 I am posting this from a medical site. Alot of people don't know or understand side effects from radiation. and the sad thing is my mom even asked me what the difference between chemo and radiation is.. and I really didn't know... I just kinda got in a mode where I do what they tell me.

Short-term side effects: Common side effects of radiation therapy include tiredness, upset stomach, or loose bowels. Serious fatigue, which may not occur until about 2 weeks after treatment begins, is a common side effect. Diarrhea is common, but usually can be controlled with over-the-counter medicines. Nausea and vomiting may also occur, but can be treated with medication. These side effects are more common with pelvic radiation than with vaginal brachytherapy. Side effects tend to be worse when chemotherapy is given with radiation.
Skin changes, which can range from mild redness to peeling and blistering, are also common. The skin may release fluid, which can lead to infection, so care must be taken to clean and protect the area exposed to radiation. Sometimes, as it heals, the skin in the treated area becomes darker or less flexible (harder).
Radiation can irritate the bladder, and you might have problems urinating. Irritation to the bladder, called radiation cystitis, can result in discomfort, blood in the urine, and an urge to urinate often.
Radiation can also cause similar changes in the intestine. When there is rectal irritation or bleeding, it is called radiation proctitis. This is sometimes treated with enemas that contain a steroid (like hydrocortisone) or suppositories that contain an anti-inflammatory.
Radiation can irritate the vagina, leading to discomfort and drainage (a discharge). This is called radiation vaginitis and if it occurs, your radiation doctor may recommend douching with a dilute solution of hydrogen peroxide. When the irritation is severe, open sores can develop in the vagina, which may need to be treated with an estrogen cream.
Radiation can also lead to low blood counts, causing anemia (low red blood cells) and leukopenia (low white blood cells). The blood counts usually return to normal within a few weeks after radiation is stopped.
Long-term side effects: Radiation therapy may cause changes to the lining of the vagina leading to vaginal dryness. This is more common after vaginal brachytherapy than after pelvic radiation therapy. In some cases scar tissue can form in the vagina. The scar tissue can make the vagina shorter or more narrow (called vaginal stenosis), which can make sex (vaginal intercourse) painful. A woman can help prevent this problem by stretching the walls of her vagina several times a week. This can be done by having sexual intercourse 3 to 4 times a week or by using a vaginal dilator (a plastic or rubber tube used to stretch out the vagina). Still, vaginal dryness and pain with intercourse can be a long-term side effect of radiation. Some centers have physical therapists who specialize in pelvic floor therapy which can help to treat these vaginal symptoms and sometimes improve sexual function. You should ask your physician about this if you are bothered by these problems. You can also find some helpful information in Sexuality for the Woman With Cancer.
Pelvic radiation can damage the ovaries, resulting in premature menopause. However, this is not an issue for most women who are being treated for endometrial cancer because they have already gone through menopause, either naturally or as a result of surgery to treat the cancer (hysterectomy and removal of the ovaries).
Pelvic radiation therapy can also lead to a blockage of the fluid draining from the leg. This can lead to severe swelling, known as lymphedema. Lymphedema is a long-term side effect; it doesn't go away after radiation is stopped. In fact it may not appear for several months after treatment ends. This side effect is more common if pelvic lymph nodes were removed during surgery to remove the cancer. There are specialized physical therapists who can help treat this. It is important to begin treatment early if you develop it. For more information, read the Lymphedema section.
Radiation to the pelvis can also weaken the bones, leading to fractures of the hips or pelvic bones. It is important that women who have had endometrial cancer contact their doctor right away if they have pelvic pain. Such pain might be caused by a fracture, recurrent cancer, or other serious conditions.

Pelvic radiation can also lead to long-term problems with the bladder (radiation cystitis) or bowel (radiation proctitis). Rarely, radiation damage to the bowel can cause a blockage (called obstruction) or for an abnormal connection to form between the bowel and the vagina or outside skin (called a fistula). These conditions may need to be treated with surgery.

Cancer sux Ya'all!

Friday, April 28, 2017

Gift wrapped in thoughtfulness & love...



Yesterday was my first day back to work in forever in a long time. lol. I'm going to say I'm pretty proud of myself. I ain't gonna lie it took alot to get motivated and get off the couch and get dreseed, walk down to my car and go. I just feel ...like pooh. It's so hard to describe. My kidneys are still sore from the biopsy and my body feels achy everywhere. my head constantly hurts, and ohh god am I just tired. But I also now that depression is a very real thing and as much as Id like to just wallow in it and stay layed up on the couch in a warm comfy blankey, until I get to hot a throw it off... only to grab it again after a bit... I also know that I need to try to get out of it. to feel useful. to feel a little more normal.

So yep I went to work last night and it was nice. I mean I'm definitely paying for it. I got home I was exhausted my feet back head and hips hurt and I just wanted to sit on the couch and not move.
A couple days ago a good friend of mine from work texted me and asked how I was and said they had something for me and wanted to bring it out. Monday was a horrible day I kept getting sick. I was still in my pjs (shhhh I stay in my pjs alot lately) & I hadn't even combed my hair.. So I told him he really didnt want to come out that day. He told me that was ok he'd bring it to work. So last night he had his friend danielle bring the gift up to work. Him , Danielle, and Taylor had made me a little gift basket.

So let me just tell you first of all I tried really hard not to cry. It was incredibly sweet of them to think of me.I  know that I get so caught up in being sick that I don't pay attention to everything else going around and for that I am truly sorry. Sorry for the missed days at work that others had to take up the slack on. the not returned calls or texts. Not visiting. And for them to take time out of there lifes to say they are thinking of me is amazing. I do have alot of truly amazing family and friends.

One of my absolute favorite things in the world even to this day to do is go through the stocking and pressies at easter and valentines day from my mom. It's almost like a tradition. she still gets us this baskets/ stocking with little odds and ends in them. But they are all chosen specifically for things we like. My husband has started trying to do that and I am thankful for that. This gift was just like that & it made me smile and my heart be filled with warmth. I looked through the basket a little while I was at work and by the time I got home I was exhausted . So this morning I opened it up to check it out.
they truly put thought into what they got. And from the bottom of my heart I thank them.

Just look at these sweet faces. I made them let me take their picture with it.. they were a little reluctant, but Im presistant ;)
 So I'm just gonna show ya what they got me!
The giftie -they even painted my name on it :)
under the papers...
Okay this part is awesome.My skin is soo dry all the time and my lips are always dry from being dehydrated. My husband rubs coconut oil on my feet everynight. and he says I spot chapstick wherever I go lol.. they got me some lotion, chapstick and a mudmask
jellybeans are one of the ways to my heart love them! jellybeans, airheads and a wonder woman cup...Wonder woman.. NEED I SAY MORE!
the crafter in me squealed when I saw these... scrapbook paper, sharpies, and sickers~ superhero, butterflies & baking!

& wonder woman jammie bottoms!


Again I just want to say how sweet & considerate this was.. and how incredibly blessed I am to have such wonderful friends & family.

Cancer sux Ya'all!

~Hope is what guides us. It's what gets us through the day & especially the night




  

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Let the waiting begin...



 I finished my last day of radiation on friday. It was bad. I stopped in to pay my car payment and ended up throwing up on the  floor becuase someone was in the bathroom. Hubby came home to take care of me but I slept most of the day. we went to get something for dinner and I ended up not even making it.
To celebrate hubby, my mom, &  I went up to silver dollar city. It's the festival of wonders and I have been wanting to try some of there bacon food stuff they have. It was a miserable day it was freezing and misting/ raining all day... but it was a wonderful day. We didn't do much. Looked around shops and saw a couple shows but so worth it.
They had an amazing act called earth harp and I am in love. It was truly amazing. This man makes a harp out of the structure of the building. So the strings stretched from the stage up to the beams over
our heads. But I'll come back and talk about the trip later in a different post.
But it was a good day.

I paid the price on Sunday and monday .I was so sore and tired. So tired. 
Yesterday was my testing day . That day is hard to explain. You want it to be good. You know what kind of stuff you have to go through, and you know that you have to wait for results... whether they be good news or bad.
It's a scary day...

 waiting in the waiting room is boring...
In between testing I found this neat little reflecting pool outside. It was very calming to sit there and listen and watch
This may not be the most flattering picture but its accurate. I was ready to leave by this time
Please ignore the stretch marks but I think it's important to share .That not everything is always so positive and uplifting like on the quotes and posters. I mean don't get me wrong. It is good to be positive but it's also hard sometimes. It's hard to keep smiling and pretending everything is alright.
So yes yesterday was testing.. Xrays, cat scans, pet scan, mri, blood work, nasogastric intubation, ecg, echo, ultrasound, blood work, and my absolute favorite "insert tears here" kidney biopsy.
I was poked and proded, and after awhile you just get numb. Numb from it all.
I went to my moms after. I had a very nice visit with her. I got a call from my son. He's a marine and has been overseas for a month know. I havent heard from him til now. He's over in Italy right now. I am so proud and jealous of him lol. He made us laugh.
I also got to hear good news about my grandma. She had breast cancer and they took one of her breasts and the lymph nodes under the arm. My mom said she did well, and they just took her draining tube out. Im pretty proud of her!
While I was talking to mom I started bawling. When this first happened . When you first get diagnosed with cancer, your numb and then you fight for an end goal. and that goal usually comes. But mine came with a price chemo damaged my heart and kidney, then it decided it just wanted to keep coming back and attacking like a parasite. I feel like there is no end game. I feel sometimes like there is no hope of this ever being over. That the fear of when it will come back takes over everything else. the being tired all the time. The getting used to having a headache all the time like it was normal. The sore back, the cramps in the legs, the getting sick and being embarrassed about it. Not eating when you go somewhere for fear of having to run to a bathroom. The humiliation when you do get sick in front of people. Gagging down so many pills. The fear in your family and friends eyes when they look at you. Pretending everything is okay. The not wanting to answer when people are asking how you are doing. Feeling so alone and knowing that your not...
The having no control over your own life.. I have no control of my life. None.
I will keep fighting. It is not in me to give up. Im stubborn like that. But right now I am just tired.
And now we wait...
Cancer Sux Ya'All!

~Hope is what guides you. It's what gets you through the day and especially the night.



Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Week 4... Dear cancer, You suck

Week 3 was rough I aint even gonna lie. I spent most of the week in pajamas and to be honest wore sweats and  a tshirt to radiation more days than not ( which is my pajamas). It is so hard to explain to someone what you are going through. How you feel so shakey and dizzy. how you feel humiliation everytime you got to run to the bathroom. How out of control you feel each time you throw up. The pains in your body. the complete exhaustion you feel. but when you lay down to sleep at night you just can't becuase thoughts keep running through your head. My husband asked me one day what i was doing and I sent him this photo... I literally got up went to radiation and proceeded to going right back to my bed and staying there. and all day I kept looking out the window thinking I need to make myself get up and do something... but I just couldn't.I made it to work one day and felt horrible.
By the time Saturday came I was so stir crazy. Hubby felt sorry for me so we went and looked around at flea markets and thrift stores. Came home and just cuddled on the couch, with me throwing the blanket on cuz I was freezing then throwing it off cause I was burning up, and sitting up becuase my back ached to curling up with my head on his chest listening to his heartbeat.

Sunday = easter. I slept in, when I got up and went in the living room at 11. Hubby had gotten up sometime in the middle of the night and had made me an easter basket. It was such a thoughtful thing. It had a round beach towel I have been eyeing, a tripod I've been wanting for awhile, a cuddly bunny and he even braved going to the mall without me and getting me bath and bodyworks all in a cool galvanized bucket. im still not sure how he got out there to make it without me knowing he left.We got dressed and went to my mamma's house for easter dinner.The easter bunny hadn't quite made it there yet, I told my nephews he was probably stuck in all the mud from the rain. I watched them open up there baskets and ooh and ahh over all there little trinkets, and run all over searching for eggs. It made my day. those smiles. those laughs. those sweet faces. But it also made me miss my own kidlets being that small. I am so glad that the easter bunny was late and let me participate in that.
There is nothing better than your momma's food. You make make the same thing the same exact way she does but hers will always be better, special. and let me tell you my sister and my mom went all out and did not disappoint. It smelled heavenly in her small apartment.She even made little carrots out of the silverware and napkins. and my sister made sweet bunny crescent rolls.
My mom had made me a little mouse for valentines day but I didnt get it til easter, and she made me a rabbit that reminds me of the velveteen rabbit. I love it. It was amazing. and of course a small easter basket in a jar. No matter how old I get I will always love looking in my stocking or basket to see the small things inside.
But the best part was family. Hubby, My mom, my sister and her kidlets, and I even got to see my brother kory that I havent seen in a long time. And even though I mostly sat most of the day over there, it was perfect. and almost made me feel human for awhile. (side note- see those cute littel bunny glasses hubby is sprting? We saw some in hobby lobby and to make me laugh he had put them on and let me take his picture. I actually bought him some from walmart later. He wore those glasses on his hat all day. On the way home from my moms I bugged him about wearing them, so he did the whole way home. even wore them into the gas station to get me a pop. Cracked me up. the cashier told him nice glasses theyre handsome which of course went to his head- sometimes it's the little things)
The best part of easter is the deviled eggs, I don't know why I just love em. so hubby stopped and got stuff for us to make some on the way home. I made them and put them in the fridge ... and forgot about them lol
I wanted guacomole so hubby made me some homemade. We ate with chips and watched wynonna earp, just laying on couch the rest of the night.

Knowing I was gonna have to get up in the morning and start radiation again.
 Week 4 here we are.

 People sometimes say things get easier more you do them... NOPE. I went to radiation and had planned on writing this blog yesterday, but you know how plans go. I was laying on the couch watching Moana and I got really hot and my heart started beating hard and fast in my chest. I checked my blood pressure and it was 100 but the heartrate was 169. I started doing deep breathing and it went down a little, but then I got the worst headache ever. then I had to run to the bathroom several times.Have I mentioned how humiliating that is? It's not as bad if no ones here. So needless to say I spent my day riding the couch again. I did finish a embroidered tea towel. So I felt a little accomplished. I watched Moanna and Frozen... hey don't judge.
Hubby like always asked me what I wanted for dinner. I said chicken. I have not cooked in a long time. it's something I used to always do, and I like it. It's therapeutic to me. He told me if I told him what to do he would do it. I told him I wanted to do it.So we ran up to walmart (which bonus hunny bought me some half off malt balls and reeeses eggs)
But on the way he asked me if I wanted to stop at the river. I don't know why but it has become my thotful spot, a place of peace for me. It had rained late the night before and the river was full . The rapids were running hard, there's something about the sound of roaring water that is peaceful. We sat there for awhile. A brave kayaker decided to try his hand at the rapids. So we watched him for a long while. but it is kinda sad that hubby knew I needed that. without me telling him, or saying a word. He knew. I do not know why but lately the river and laying with my head on his chest is the most peaceful places to me. and when I was ready we headed up to walmart. (Im loving the panoramic setting in my phone)

So I cooked some chicken marinated in spicy Hawaiian mango sauce, made broccoli chicken rice and sauteed mushrooms and onions.... and forgot the damn deviled eggs lol. but just being able to do it made me feel not so useless I guess
I couldn't sleep last night. I kept running to the bathroom , I couldn't get comfortable, and my mind would just not shut off. So when my alarm rang this morning for me to get up and get dressed to go to radiation. there was a part of me that just said nope not today, I can't do this again today. After radiation my doctor had me go talk to the councilor. I used to think that was a sign of weakness or that there were things people would say about it. But I challenge anyone to go through this... this crapt that has taken up 5 years of my life, and not need someone to talk to.Someone who is not family or a friend ,someone who will just listen to you, so you don't have to mince words or tell them your fine, or watch what you are saying. I am depressed Im not going to lie about that. I feel weak I feel beaten down and broken. People tell me i'm strong, but I just don't feel it these days. I've got 3 more days to go, then testing and then see where we go from there. A dear friend from work told me one day at a time, and I said 5 minutes at a time. Because sometimes 5 minutes is all I can seem to handle at a time. When I started writing these blog posts, I was just venting. getting it out to feel better. But when I go to research stuff I find lots of medical and technical posts but nothing about what you really go through, How it really feels. So it is my hope that maybe someone else stumbles upon these posts and realizes that what there feeling is real and they are not going through it alone. That all these positive quotes and memes you see about cancer fighters are amazing and wonderful but it is not how you are going to feel alot... no most of the time, and even I am having a hard time letting myself know that it is okay to feel that way. That somedays just washing your hair is an accomplishment.
I'm not sure what's gonna happen after this week, and trust me I have had many sleepless nights thinking about it. All I know is I am still here, so god must want me here for some reason. And even though it feels like life couldnt get much worse. My rate of survival is 100%. It's taken me about 2 hours and 24 minutes to write this post with my bathroom trips and dizziness and shaky hands. So I am just gonna post it and lay down for awhile, maybe put on tangled or mailificent.
 
Cancer sux Ya'All!
 
Hope is what guides us. It's what gets us through the day & especially the nights...



Monday, April 10, 2017

week three...go



I just don't know whats wrong with me lately...
I mean I do I just don't know how to fix it. I just keep getting tireder and tireder. My body aches all the time. I keep getting cramps in the bottom of my feet that make my toes curl and I cannot uncurl them. and cry I want to just bawl all the time.
Friday I called into work because I just was wore out. dizzy, shaking, sore and just tired.
I went to the river and I just sat there for 3 hours watching it. I feel so alone and not becuase people arent there for me, they are. lots of people. I just know I have so many things running through my head and I just want them to quit, just for a little while. And while people want to be there the real gritty feelings that I have are not strong feelings, and good feelings, and I just don't to burden people with them.
Saturday I didn't get dressed .. all day.
My husband took me to get dinner. I didn't get dressed, I didn't even really comb my hair. I didn't get out of the car. I just went and sat in the car. Sunday I didn't get dressed.
Today I went to radiation and I just feel like a zombie. today starts week 3 and I am so ready to be over this. I was told today we were going to do week 4 then tests to see where to go from there.
I've had a allergy cold and I can't help but laugh. chemo and radiation, I can deal with but this man cold is killing me. Yeah I know it's just a cold, but to me it's not. It's just one more thing piled on my load right now.
I feel so weak. So useless right now. I just don't wanna do anything .
I have wonder woman on my name tag, I wear her as a badge of courage. Such a small thing gives me courage to keep on everyday. to keep me feeling strong. 5 minutes at a time.  Life sux sometimes, everyone has things there going through. Im no different. Im human and have human feelings and emotions. And I guess I need to just work mine out.

So here we go week 3... bring it on!

Cancer sux Ya'All!


Monday, April 3, 2017

week 2 and go....

So this weekend I laid around.Literally. Saturday I stayed on the couch. Didn't even put on pants til 3. 
hubby took me to the casino to get dinner and we made different crepes. I love crepes.
Sunday we went up to fayetteville to get some wood to make a shelf for the bathroom and ended up not because it was raining. 
My head and body hurt so much. I even fell asleep in the car. I hate that because I know what it's like to be the only one awake in a car when your driving... but I couldn't help it.

Today I started week 2 of radiation... I think I spent about 85 % of the rest of today running to the bathroom. My head feels like someone is stabbing me, and the pain runs into my shoulders and down my spine to my lower back... and nothing seems to help. Hot baths back rubs. nothing.
I was sitting in the bathroom at one point today getting sick when I thought to myself I need to call in.There's no way Im going to be able to work and keep running to the bathroom... Then I started laughing, hysterically, then crying, bawling.... I don't work today. And I didn't remember that. 
I swear sometimes it feels like I'm losing it. I know things I want to say but I can't seem to get the words out.
And I am so damn tired of crying.
So many things I want to get done, but then I end up just sitting around and pretty soon my day is over. I've finished 2 out of 3 used books I bought at the goodwill just being in the bathroom, and this is only the start to week 2. I started embroidering a tea towel today because I thought it makes me happy and it requires little effort and it's peaceful...
And because when Im stressed I bake... I made a pig pickin cake today.. I'll let ya know how it tastes tomorrow.
I fight like a girl every day trying to kick this things ass... but today it just kinda feels like I'm getting my ass kicked. I want to stay positive and believe that things will get better, some days are just worse than outhers and I've decided it's okay to feel that way.
Time to finish my laundry

Cancer sux Ya'all!