making a blog...

It has taken me all day to figure out how to customize this blog.Lol. But I really like the end results.
I decided I better start writing on here since I started a blog and never wrote in it. I have a long list of blogs i frequent for digital scrapbooking, and i really have enjoyed reading them. I have found myself going to them for the scrapbooking but staying to read all the stuff on them. It seems to me to be a pretty good outlet to get things out. and even if no one reads it... you still have gotten it out.lol
Today has been a pretty bad day for me. My husband and I have 5 kids together. I have 4 and he has one. Mine are all older... 16,15,13, & 11. his is 4 almost 5. We have been together now for a little over 2 years.
Recently my 2 older kids who have been having alot of problems at home were sent to their dads to see if that could help them. I will get into that another day since it still hurts a little to talk about it. Its hard to be a mom for 16 years and then be the one that gets the phone calls once a week if your lucky to see how your kids are. Real hard!
So we have 3 of the kids living with us. My kids have split up all the chores and have been being pretty good sports about all of this. but my stepson rarely does anything. He is capable and does things when his dad isnt here, like helps me clean the fingerprints from the door frames, or takes his dirty clothes in to the hamper, takes his plate to the sink, and even cleans his spot after dinner. but when his father is around he goes into complete baby mode. Now I have had 4 kids , so I know kids will be kids. But it is hard to try to reinforce rules to the outher two when "D" gets away with everything.
Today was a REALLY bad day!!!!
Since i have known My husband and d . "D" has been rough we will say. He has given me black eyes on several occasions, has given my 13 year old son scars from biting him. Throws the worst temper tantrums I have ever seen, and tells people he is going to kill him.
This year we started him in pre-K I thought maybe if he was around kids his own age and had a structure of school it would prepare him for Kindergarten....Nope. We have gotten so many notes home from him that it is really sad. 3weeks ago i started taking him to school. it is an hour trip there and back ( driving there, sitting in the line , signing him in, and driving home) i do this twice a day becuase D has to have a bus buddy. But 3 weeks ago he bit my 13 year old son so hard that he still has a mark and it has been 3 weeks. His dad told him he needed to learn patience and didnt let him play his video games....( that is a whole nother story but yes the 4 year old has his own tv vcr and playstation 2)...anyways.
since i am having to pick him up and drop him off, I am having to talk to his teachers. He has been in trouble everyday except for one the last 2 weeks. He is hitting other kids, he is direspectful to the teacher, throws fits, tells them he is going to kill them ( to be exact shoot them in the face and slit their throats), wont do what he is told. not normal little 4 year olds do.
So here is where my bad day comes from. yesterday we had my 11 yr old daughters award assembly, so we picked D up again. He had a bad day again and she gavemy hubby the note. he just looked at it, and wouldnt talk to her. he told D that he couldnt watch his tv or play his games and had to play in his room for the rest of the night ( this has been his punishment the no tv or videogames for 2 weeks- however he can watch tv in the living room and hubby has even allowed him to play video games with my son) so 2 nights he has played in his room. this morning he lets him come watch tv in the living room, he was even asking if he could play with R's video games with him except R told him no, and let him go play outside.
Hubby went outside to get some stuff doen in the yard sicne it has not been raingin the last couple of days. I hurt my ankle so i was watching tv. Hubby comes in and tells me that he is leaving to go do some work for a friend and tells D he can play outside. So i have to go outside to watch him play and hubby thought I shouldnt get mad about it. It started a fight or a war... and hubby told me he wasnt going to make him stay in his room all weekend, and I had to quit my attitude or get out of his house.
Well there was more to it thatn that but thats the gist of it.
I honestly dont know what he can do to get D to stop doing what he is doing but I do know that it is going to get him in serious trouble next year when he is in real school. Hubby wants to get mad at me for this but i am truly afraid d is going to get in big trouble and take us with him, when he can stop the behavior now.
Does anyone have any ideas on what to do. Even the teachers have no clue what to do. in one of the letters to D's dad they asked him to please not let him play his games or tv for a month, and to please work on it with them. they he would be good for the one day to get his tv back and then go right back to being bad the next day after he gets it...
okay I am done griping. I honestly do care very much for D and I really want whats best for him and see him grow up big and become a good man. I just know that right now it is really causing alot of trouble.
On the bright side it is warm today here in arkansas, not to warm, and NOT raining!!! lol
Well til another day.
thanks for listening
tink